One thing I have learned during my short journey through life is that there is ONE MAJOR FACTOR in relationship problems, and that is…........SELFISHNESS!
Americans today are mainly obsessed with one thing, themselves! People are consumed with self-help books, self-indulgences, self-medication and self-fulfillment, which only leads to more problems, more diseases, more addictions, anxiety and depression.
Americans have adopted the “only look out for yourself” mindset, along with the “you’re number one” philosophy, meanwhile our country is sitting in a cesspool of selfishness and it is polluting our most important relationships.
But what about me, you say? What about my needs? Me, Me, Me!
It is this precise self-centered way of thinking that has paved the path of divorce and destruction all throughout our nation! If people would quit being so self-centered, and start focusing on the needs of others, we might begin to see a healing take place in our marriages and other relationships.
What are the most common Causes of Divorce?
Of course, many of the so-called “causes” for divorce would not even happen in the first place, were it not for a lack of commitment to the marriage, which is selfish in nature.
People all across America reject altruism, the view that self-sacrifice is the moral ideal. It is a foreign concept these days for someone to portray an unselfish concern for the welfare of others, or act in complete selflessness.
Many “experts” argue that the ultimate moral value, for each human individual, is his or her own well-being. According to modern Americans, many believe that selfishness is a virtue. Since selfishness is considered to be a serious, rational, principled concern with one's own well-being, it turns out to be a prerequisite for the attainment of the ultimate moral value.
Not only does selfishness lead to loneliness, bitterness and all sorts of destruction, selfish behavior is completely contradictory to God’s Holy Word! Successful relationships are not self-centered!
“Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” - Philippians 2:3-4